The option of collaborative divorce in Tulsa, Oklahoma has begun to gain recognition.  Couples in Tulsa who choose this alternative divorce process should be mindful that divorce can still be a very emotional process.  One common emotion is fear of the unknown.  This is especially true when a Tulsa couple is divorcing after many years of marriage.  They often find themselves thinking “what do I do now” or “being a wife/husband is all I have ever known, I don’t know who I am anymore”.  The answer to this fear is that you must now find the “new you”, sort of like a metamorphosis (meta·mor·pho·sis a striking alteration in appearance, character, or circumstances).  

Imagine if you will a caterpillar.  It is green, fuzzy, crawling, and has so many legs to keep up with.  Soon those little legs will carry the caterpillar to the perfect spot in which it will become a chrysalis.  The chrysalis is very ugly and undesirable and to some it may seem as if the caterpillar has died.  The truth is, the caterpillar has not died, it is simply going through a transformation period.  Soon the transformation is complete and either a beautiful butterfly or undesirable moth will emerge. When a butterfly enters our world we take notice and say things like, “wow, look at that beautiful butterfly flying so freely with such grace”.  But when a moth enters our world we see it as an ugly pest and often shoo it away.

Collaborative divorce in Tulsa offers you choices in the outcome of your final settlement agreement.  You, however, have choices in how you come out of the divorce process.

It’s true that you will be a single person but will you be the butterfly desired by all or the moth nobody wants to be around?  Will you be noticed for your strength, your courage, your ability to overcome?  Will you allow pain and hurt to consume you and negative emotions to make you undesirable?

Divorce is a metamorphosis some Tulsa couples will go through, a real life changing event.  Unlike the caterpillar that does not choose its’ outcome, you do have the ability to choose yours.    The question is will the outcome of your metamorphosis allow you to fly freely with positive thoughts or remain imprisoned by negative emotions?  The choice really is yours.